What Is your Legacy?

Updated: Aug 11

What are you healing from your family? What are you passing down?



When my dad died, being the first born left me the patriarch of the family. What the hell did that mean anyway? I really wasn’t sure I wanted the job. I knew I didn’t want to lead exactly as my father had. There was to much broken baggage that went along with the job.


It was such a strange place to find myself in, even though it had been something I had been thinking about for a while.


How do I start to heal and transform the generational legacy of wounded masculine? What do I want to continue to pass down and what needs to be released, healed, transformed, and actually sent back up the line for healing?


Because in my early life I had no idea who I was or what my voice was, I had a lot of work to do to find myself. In the journey to my on healing and transformation. The journey to finding out who I am and why I am here began to heal the relationship with my dad. Then it began to support the healing and transformation for my sister and then my dad started to change how he showed up in the world.


So, a good part of the healing work of my lineage was just me doing my work. And continuing to do my work to grow myself and being conscious of how I show up in the world, with my family most importantly.


I found myself shortly after my dad had died sitting in my hot tub, when I felt the wait of the legacy being handed down to me. I was immediately, like no wait. I don’t want all of this to carry, all the karma, the tragedy, the pain, the powerless leadership, the woundedness. I did not want to own all this masculine trauma and just keep the perpetuating the legacy.


I spoke to my father and offered it back to him for healing and invited him to turn around and do the same for his father and so on up the line. This way continuing the healing journey for me and those that come after me.


This work really changed my life. There is much more to the story than I could write in this short post. But the point is that you can do incredible work towards healing your family by doing your work and find out who you are by living your truth authentically.


Witnessing the changes in my clients when they do the work to heal and transform themselves and then noticing how it has a dramatic ripple effect both up and down the family line. Is an honor and powerful to see.


It doesn’t matter whether you are masculine or feminine, the work is important for both sides of the lineage.


I invite you to be a part of the change in your legacy. Really evaluate what that means for you.


How can you stop the transference of pain and trauma?


How can you stop the unconscious passing on of things that no longer serve you or your family?


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